During a conversation with a friend recently, we got to talking about how young people learn about healthy relationships. Where do they get their information?
There are plenty of websites…plenty of stories…plenty of people who want to give them information. But some of that is not healthy, and some of it is just downright wrong.
I grew up as part of a generation in which we just didn’t talk much about relationships…or sex. In a lot of ways it was just assumed that we would absorb what we needed to know. Some of us did…a lot of us didn’t!
So fast forward to today. There is so much information–and misinformation–available. And young people have so many questions, even if they don’t always know how to frame them.
Those of us who believe that we are created in the sacred image–and that the Creator said that all creation is good–have a responsibility for providing a safe place for questioning…a place where young people can ask difficult questions and receive honest answers. We need to help them understand the reasoning behind what they may see simply as “rules” that keep them from doing what they want–to share how they help create healthy, long-term, committed relationships that will be good for them individually as well as good for society.
Is this going to be easy? Absolutely not! For many of us, we never thought we would be needing to have these kinds of discussions. We may find them somewhat embarrassing. We may be the focus of anger when we talk about boundaries. We may not know all the answers–and that’s all okay.
But we need to listen…and we need to talk about this at church, because church should be a safe place to talk about these topics. If we don’t, someone else will take our place…and we may not like the results.