There are a number of statements that good Christians (and I mean that sincerely) say when someone is going through a difficult time that are less than helpful…and the title of this post is definitely one of them!
I do not believe in a God who looks at God’s creation and decides, “Hmmm…this person can handle this much difficulty…but nope, can’t give that person so much. They’d never be able to take it.”
However, I do believe in a God who walks with us in and through those difficult times, helping to bear those burdens…listening to our anger/fear/pain…being present with us.
Life happens. Sometimes it’s good stuff that takes place in our lives, but sometimes life stinks. Our children make choices that we know will give them heartache, but we can’t get them to see it. Sometimes we’re just in the wrong place at the wrong time. Sometimes accidents happen…or we get sick, regardless of how well we eat or how much exercising we do. Got doesn’t control everything that happens to us.
When someone is struggling with pain and heartache because of life situations, to tell them that God won’t give them more than they can handle is not a comfort. It presents a god who is almost sadistic in trying to see just how much someone can take before breaking.
The best way to help someone going through difficulty is to simply be there. Sometimes cry with them…sometimes hug them…run errands or do chores if needed…but don’t try to tell them what God is or is not doing to them. Just be there.