The first line of M. Scott Peck’s book The Road Less Traveled is “Life is hard.” His premise is then that if we can accept that, then it becomes much easier to deal with the difficult situations that come our way.
I’m old enough that I understand that…and can live with it. But sometimes it seems so unfair when young people have to discover that in difficult ways before they are even teens!
Last night a young family member was admitted to the children’s ward in a mental hospital for evaluation and help. He had made some suicide threats at school that were specific enough that a crisis team was called in and it was felt that he needed the hospitalization. I’m hoping that will give him the help he needs and the tools he needs to deal with his life issues…and there are so many!
- Dealing with ADHD.
- A mother who gave him birth…but who has had very limited contact with him for several years…calls when she feels like she needs to hear his voice but otherwise doesn’t pay much attention
- First stepmother who left…although he hasn’t missed her that much.
- Second stepmother who walked out on him and his father in a way that left everyone wondering if she was alive or dead. That one devastated him, because she’d been the mother in all the ways that count for five significant years of his life…and yet she did not see (or didn’t want to see) the love he had for her because he could also push her buttons.
- Death of a great-grandfather from Alzheimers. He didn’t really know that grandfather well, but he still missed him.
- Death of a great-grandmother whom he did know.
- Death of another great-grandfather with whom he had a very special relationship, and whose death created a void.
- Death of a much-loved cousin (who was a Marine) on the cousin’s 21st birthday.
He does have several positive things going for him–a father who loves him, paternal grandparents who are there for him and who love him deeply as well, a church family that supports him…
I hope that he is able to learn his way to deal with the fact that life is hard. He has so much going for him and so much potential! If he can learn that, then he will also learn that life is good.